People are programmed by their environments. When you grow up with someone or several other factors that press into you the facts of life in the "be realistic” approach, usually that means they are negative. Unfortunately, many people will never recognize that their life now does not have to reflect the pitfalls of the past. This is why you will see repetitive cycles in families of alcoholics and poverty. They have been taught not to expect more or better things. Some accept "lack" as a badge of honor.
There is a way out of the malaise of paranoia and downtrodden thinkers. It is that you should make a point to learn from successful people. You cannot improve if you attach yourself to someone who validates mediocrity, however, you will improve if you honor the education given from those who have proven how to be a winner. We will sporadically give messages in the future to reinforce what we are telling you. If you are sincere about wanting to change a pattern that is physically, emotionally, mentally and financially limiting, then you have to align yourself with people who will give you the key to vibrancy. It is a God-given right to live happy and prosperous. Start by acknowledging the Higher Power within yourself. For now, that is what you need to think about. Aspire to live life by the Golden Rule. These are The Spoken Words of Spirit.